Virginia Beach, VA - Patricia Ann (Haden) Ahlschlager, a dedicated foster parent and beloved member of her family, passed away peacefully at the age of 82 on June 9, 2026, in Virginia Beach, Virginia. Born on October 13, 1943, in Rochester, New York, Patricia devoted her life to caring for others, particularly through her work as a foster parent.
Throughout her life, Patricia touched the lives of many with her kindness and generosity. She was a compassionate soul who provided love and support to those in need, leaving a lasting impact on all who knew her.
Patricia was preceded in death by her parents and her loving husband, Douglas C. Ahlschlager Sr. She is survived by her son, Douglas C. Ahlschlager Jr., along with other family members and friends who will miss her dearly.
No services are planned at this time. Simply Cremation is assisting her family during this difficult period. Those who wish to share memories or express condolences are encouraged to visit SimplyCremationOnline.com.
Patricia will be remembered for her warmth, dedication, and unwavering love for her family and those she cared for throughout her life. She leaves behind a legacy of compassion that will continue to inspire those who were fortunate enough to have known her.
Photos & Video
Photos
Add New Photos & Video
Condolences
07/03/2026
Christine Golder
Your mom was one of the kindest people I have ever known! Her love for all children was selfless and endless. She was a strong advocate for adoption and foster parenting. Not just talking the talk, but walking the walk every day of her life! Hers was a life well-lived with a strong purpose in loving children who were abandoned, abused, neglected and giving them a better life. She devoted herself to children with special needs and become their guardian angel as well as their mom!! She supported a network of other foster parents doing the same in her F-PAC group for which she was the president for many years! She always fought for what was right on behalf of her children as well as other foster mothers. As a caseworker, I had the privilege of working with this deeply devoted parent who never gave up on a child, no matter the challenges on raising them. The world is a better place because of the life of this wonderful woman. She will be dearly missed but her memory will burn brightly in our hearts! 💕
07/03/2026
Kianna Ahlschlager
The best Grandma I could ever ask for, every day goes by and you cross my mind and I wish that I got to spend more time with you while you were still around. I wish I got to visit you more and I wish you were closer to me so I could see you whenever I want, but when I did see you, my heart was always filled with joy, laughter, and your heart was always filled with love with the best hugs and the most genuine care in your heart for me. Thank you for being the best grandma I could ever ask for I love you lots, and you will forever be in my heart.
07/03/2026
Nicole Ahlschlager
Mom, Not a day goes by that I don't think about you. You came into my life and chose to love me as your own, and that is one of the greatest gifts anyone has ever given me. You never made me feel different. You gave me a home, a family, and a love that was unconditional. You gave me everything I could have ever wanted in this world, but the greatest gift of all was being able to call you my mom. You were the most amazing mother and the most incredible grandma. The love you gave so freely touched everyone around you, especially me and your grandchildren. Your kindness, your strength, your hugs, your laughter, and your endless support are memories I'll carry in my heart forever. Thank you for believing in me, standing by me, and loving me through every chapter of my life. I hope you always knew how deeply you were loved and how grateful I am that you chose me. I wouldn't be the person I am today without you. I miss you more than words can ever express. There is an empty place in my heart that can never be filled, but I find comfort knowing that your love will always be a part of me. I promise to carry your lessons, your compassion, and your beautiful spirit with me every day. You will always be my mom. Nothing, not even death, can change that. I love you endlessly, and I can't wait until the day I get to hug you again. Forever your favorite daughter Nicole
Add a Candle or Spiritual Image
Click below to add to your message.
Useful Links
Add Your Useful Link
Contact Us to have your link and message added here.
Please fill out the form below. We will contact suitable submissions with further details.
Loading...
Modal title
Modal body text goes here.
Name and Email Address
To leave a condolence message, add photos, or add videos, please provide your name and email address